Weekly Word Vitamin: Assertive

Weekly Word Vitamin: Assertive

Too often we slip into aggression or submission, but if we replace it with calm assertion, we can empower, support and get rid of fear.

By Cynthia Morton | 16th October 2015

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ASSERTIVNESS is not what you do, it’s a discipline and maturity that creates who and how you are.

When we're aggressive we shame others.

When we're submissive we shame ourselves.

When we're ASSERTIVE, we are emotionally in balance as we honour others and ourselves, not interested in shame but solutions.

Shame is fed by fear, so if problems need to be addressed and we're fearful we're out of balance. We all feel safest and balanced when love is present.

Calm ASSERTION is an act of love as it empowers and supports everyone and dissolves fear. It takes great strength and discipline to remain loving when others are fearful. It takes great wisdom also to remember not to confuse silence with ignorance, kindness with weakness nor calm ASSERTION with acceptance.

Gentlemen and gentlewomen are masters at calm ASSERTION and managing situations that they find unacceptable with respect for all concerned. When the shit hits the fan and we or they stuff up, remaining ASSERTIVE is a rare skill. An ASSERTIVE adult remains respectful and kind, firm yet fair and looks for solutions with a gentle open heart and mind.

Today may we be better Gentlemen and women should problems arise practising our calm ASSERTION skills to resolve any fears that cross our path?

ASSERTIVENESS gifts us with the freedom to honour ourselves and show those in our lives our emotional palate without shaming them or ourselves. Our likes, dislikes, our opinions, morality, dealbreakers and dealmakers. It gifts us with integrity as we deal truthfully with others as we become more ASSERTIVE we drop any people pleasing pretence and show others who we are and who we are not. Is your ASSERTIVE heart able to say with respect …

“This is who I am. This is what I feel, and this is what I need moving forward?”

So let’s take a wise tip from one of life’s calmest masters Rumi …

“Raise your words, not your voice for it’s the rain that grows flowers not thunder.”

Lotsa love Cynthia xxx

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Article by Cynthia Morton

Cynthia Morton is an award-winning wordsmith and speaker, highly skilled in the art of improving emotional fitness through her heart-warmingly healing workshops, storytelling and private sessions.