When you’re young, friends come and go almost daily. You can be friends with someone at lunchtime and have a brand-new BFF by after-school sport.
As we get older, however, new friends can be few and far between. We become a little bit wiser, a little less trusting and sometimes a little bit bitter with the world. Resting Bitch Face is now a thing. BFFs fall for your high school sweetheart. Studying, careers, kids and partners get in the way of much-needed you time. And yeah, fine, sometimes we just choose to sit on the couch on a Saturday night, eating ice-cream from the tub with no pants on.
Sooner or later, you realise that you only have a couple of good friends, your mum is always the last person you texted and your idea of socialising is when the boss decides to shout lunch for the workplace once every six months.
WELL, NO LONGER. (Unless you want.) Here are some ways to get off the couch and find some new besties:
Be aggressive, be be aggressive
Join a netball/touch/volleyball… heck, even a lawn bowls team! If you’re doing something you enjoy, chances are you’ll find PEOPLE you enjoy as well! And if not, at least you’ve gotten your butt off the couch and you’re working off that ice-cream.
There’s an app for that
Bumble is basically Tinder for friends. It works on a mutual swipe system and requires you to communicate with your new connection within 24 hours or you’ll never get the chance to speak to them again *sad face*
Meetup is designed to connect you with people who like the same things that you do. It makes “community real” so whether you like hiking, tech, or want to bond with someone over your mutual hate for everything, you can find your community on this app.
Meet My Dog is definitely my kind of app! Unite over your shared love of man’s (or woman’s) best friend and find your pooch a new BFF while you’re at it. The app finds dog owners around you and allows you to chat via the app to organise a play date for your dog.
If all else fails, there’s always Tinder. Let’s be honest, most people aren’t on Tinder to find a bestie, but I personally know people who have made good friends via the dating app! It’s always a last resort and if all else fails, Netflix and chill?
Share the Love
We’ve all promised we’d volunteer one day. Why not make this the time to do something good for the world? You’ll meet like-minded people, and even if you don’t click with them, you’re going to get some serious brownie points for paying it forward. It can also be a great way to pat new dogs. Did I mention I like dogs?
Answer the call of nature
Ladies, how many times have you been on a boozy night out and made a new BFF in the bathrooms? In just five minutes you’ll find out where the busty brunette went to school, why the crying girl wants to break up with her boyfriend and what the lady with the great makeup’s favourite shade of Mac lipstick is.
Think Outside the Circle
Maybe it’s time to stop idolising the group on the Friends TV show. (It’s hard, I know.) Try making friends with people older than you, younger than you people, people with children, the elderly and even people who hate your favourite things. You’ll be obliged to get out of your comfort zone and you’ll certainly learn things about the world and about yourself.
Be Your Own Best Friend
You’ve probably heard it a million times but there’s definitely something to be said for finding self-love before finding other people to love you. You’re bound to be a lot more loveable if you’re feeling good about yourself. Suggestions on finding self-love/happy thoughts: be grateful, meditate, literally smile more, even if you don’t want to (studies say it works!), get active, think mindfully, get spiritual (in whatever way suits you), stop comparing yourself to others, eat healthy foods containing serotonin/dopamine, play with a dog…