Whether you’re newly engaged or the proposal is right around the corner, there’s one important thing you have to remember: a wedding is not a marriage. It’s a celebration that marks the beginning of your new life together. And you definitely don’t want to start out stressed or in debt.
If, like many people, you don’t have unlimited funds, you might have to choose between planning an epic wedding and honeymoon and saving your hard-earned cash for a financially stable life together.
Eloping means you can ditch the traditional wedding and make the occasion solely about you and your partner. Still not certain? Check out the five things you need to know about eloping!
YOU SAVE MONEY
According to Bride to Be magazine, Australian couples spent, on average, a whopping $65,482 on their weddings in 2015. That is a LOT of money for a one-day event. From the wedding dress you’ll only wear once to the excessive amounts of alcohol and food that you may not even have time to enjoy, there are a myriad of things associated with weddings that really aren’t a priority in the grand scheme of things.
BEWARE THE BACKLASH
Expect some people – family and friends, mostly – to be upset. It’s hard to break away from a traditional wedding and sometimes your normal is sooooo not their normal. But don’t let them bully you out of eloping if it’s something you really want to do. Your wedding – and your marriage – is about you and your partner.
Once they get over the shock, they’ll probably want to celebrate with you in their own way. Meeting up with friends for a Sunday sesh at your favourite venue is the perfect way to party without the stress.
YOU GET TO SEE YOUR PARTNER
At a traditional wedding, you rarely get the opportunity to spend quality time with your partner, even though the day is all about you two. You’ll likely be separated before the wedding, and you’ll be so busy mingling with guests at the reception that, by night’s end, you may not even have energy left to consummate the thing.
One of the benefits of eloping is that you can ACTUALLY make it all about you. Wine and dine, be in the moment and enjoy the start of your life together.
IT CAN BE A DESTINATION WEDDING
If you’re eloping, you can roll your wedding and honeymoon into one. Plus, you won’t have to worry about your friends or family saying it’s too expensive to attend. If you ARE planning to elope overseas, just check that you have all the necessary documentation to marry outside of Australia.
In Queensland, you have to advise the relevant legal authorities of your intention to marry at least 28 days prior to the marriage. It also must be carried out by a qualified marriage celebrant. The paperwork might be daunting but it’s a small price to pay for getting the wedding you want.
IT’S A GREAT STORY
How many people do you know who’ve secretly planned their wedding day and honeymoon without telling anyone? It takes courage to do your own thing and embrace it. Eloping may be a scary thing but in the end, your marriage is YOUR marriage. And you don’t have to compromise along the way.