In the lives of many of my clients, sexual abuse and domestic violence has caused great emotional heart trauma; like bullets and shards of glass rammed straight into the heart muscle. However, the most difficult form of abuse to overcome for myself and for many clients has been verbal abuse or what I call ... CACTUS WORDS.
What are CACTUS WORDS? They are prickly, critical words used throughout the years that needle directly into our heart’s core and leave splinters. It only takes another person to repeat the phrase or word years later and our heart's splinter is knocked again, causing tremendous private pain. While we may think it’s only just a word, the splinter is invisible to others and very painful for us.
Great news, the fine tweezers of emotional self-care can remove our heart’s CACTUS splinters, so we can start to heal. Awareness is our first step. Uncover, discover, and recover. It is our birthright to live happily ever after in our own skin, prickle-free and have access to all areas of our beautiful heart.
So with the week ahead, if we encounter sharp words in our own dialogue or from others, let us remember the best verbal tweezers are the words "I'm so sorry.” We may never hear them from others, it does not matter, we can say this powerful "tweezer phrase" to ourselves anytime we feel a splinter is touched. This is not an act of victimhood nor self pity, but private self-compassion that as adults too many of us deprive ourselves of. In time these gentle words of self-respect do remove the CACTUS splinters we have neglected to address over the years, and our tender heart will heal.
The best is yet to come once we learn about CACTUS WORDS and master the use of our own portable emotional tweezers!
Lotsa love Cynthia xxx