Don’t let the title fool you; I’m not about never dating or never settling down. But sometimes as a single lady, we can get caught up wondering why we don’t have someone on our arm yet. SO caught up, in fact, that we end up doing a Charlotte from Sex and The City…
I’m just saying, it’s a good thing to focus on yourself and let the right person come your way instead of seeking them out. They’re out there somewhere, you just have to be patient! Unfortunately, life isn’t like The Notebook and sometimes not expecting your soulmate to show up at any given moment is the best way to get through this cray-cray thing called LIFE.
To get your head in the right space, I’ve come up with some tips to help you:
Working hard now will benefit you in the long run
Work now, relax later. This might be the only time you have to really chase your dreams wholeheartedly. If you find a partner who’s going to support you in achieving that goal, that’s amazing and I hope it works. But for those who are tossing up between someone you sorta “dig” or your career, you know which one to choose.
Surround yourself with successful women
We may have come a long way but sexism is still looming large and we have to stick together. There’s nothing more uplifting than having a great group of like-minded professional ladies as a support network. And why not head to your local bookshop and select some titles based around successful women and their stories? It’s really inspiring and will have you focused in no time.
Pour your heart into things that make you happy
You might have the BEST job in the worrrld or you might be a MasterChef in the making. Whatever it is, pouring your love into the things that bring you joy will teach you how to feel fulfilled without someone else. They always say you have to learn to love yourself before you love anyone else!
Wait for the love you deserve
Someone recently told me to “stop settling for the love you think you deserve” - which may have been a paraphrased quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower but it was also an eye-opener and this person was 100 per cent right. Sometimes we just go along with whatever comes our way, even if we know it’s not right for us. It’s totally fine to be picky and know what you want!
Feature Image: Legally Blonde (2011), Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer