My name is Lucy, and I have been in a relationship for 6 years, 7 months and 29 (mostly) blissful days. Like my frolleague (friend/colleague) Sarah, a Sunday sesh played a significant role in our relationship status: in my case, its commencement. He was drawn to my ‘drop it like it’s hot’ dance moves, while I was in stitches over his perfect and persistent mimicry of Borat’s, “I like; very nice!”
And while we’ve had our ups and downs, we’ve managed to keep most of them confined to the bedroom. Some may say single is the new black, but in my opinion, coupledom’s always on trend, and here’s why:
Hooked on a feeling…
Loving somebody other than yourself is an amazing feeling. Sure loving yourself feels pretty good too, but when you’re having a bad day, the only thing better than downing a dirty martini or five is knowing that you’ve got a big warm hug when you get home.
You get to change your status on Facebook to ‘in a relationship’ which, let's face it, is one of the main reasons you even have Facebook.
You learn a lot about yourself. You discover that although you might have thought you were, you’re not a ‘clean’ person. You learn what you really do and don't like about others, and you learn that while tucking up your top lip and baring your teeth might be cute to you; it really isn’t. But, your significant other will love you anyway.
You have someone to hang out with. While your bestie, sister or mum may also do the trick, being in a strong relationship means you’ve pretty much got a permanent plus one, and boring events become bearable. Suddenly, celebrations like Great Aunt Mabel’s 80th are more like the MTV awards, minus Miley Cyrus. Ok so that might be a stretch, but the point I’m trying to make is; they're BETTER!
Chewing the fat
You have a constant confidant. If you’re anything like me, you love a good chinwag. My grade two teacher once told me that I had verbal diarrhoea. And while many things have changed since I was a 7 year old, my love for talking has not. In a relationship, you can discuss your fears, your dreams, and engage in scholarly discourse about your favourite couple on The Block and other pressing world issues, all without judgment. It may drive them slightly bonkers at times, but geez it feels good to release!
Having intimate moments with just one person means you can get it whenever you like, and get damn good at it. You find out what you like, as well as what works for them. It also means no more waking up and wondering whose bed you’re in, how you got there, and how you’re going to get home. Not that I know from personal experience of course, but I hear that it’s an all too common (and regrettable) occurrence among single folk these days.
Splits-ville (of sorts)
You’ve got someone to share stuff with. Whether it’s work success, or going halfsies on a salted caramel cronut from Flour & Chocolate, the bills, or even just the housework, sharing is caring and helps lighten the load. When you have someone to share them with, the bad times seem easier, and the good times even happier. And if you’ve found the right person – you’ll get to do it together for the rest of your lives. #bliss!